My Favorite Characters Hate Themselves

Recently I did a little writing exercise. I thought about my favorite characters from movies and television and drafted up a few paragraphs on each. I focused on their strengths, weaknesses, and the various inner conflicts that give them depth. Now it seems like the most obvious thing in the world, but once I had it all on the page, I realized that all my favorite characters are highly self-destructive.

Okay, so maybe they don’t hate themselves, but they all have internal compulsions that drive them in conflicting directions. They do things they know they shouldn’t; a dark side compels them, and they seem to have little or no control over that darkness. Even as they do their best to be good, they are subconsciously their own worst enemy.

Don Draper is a perfect example of a great, three-dimensional character. He is a brilliant ad man because he quickly knows what people want, what drives them to act, and he plays on their primal urges. But when it comes to Don’s own urges and wants, he seems oblivious, and so he treads upon himself with profligate sex and alcoholism, trying to fill a gulf of want, but wearing himself down until he can’t find his talent.

One of my favorite movie characters is Dignan from Bottle Rocket. Owen Wilson’s wannabe career criminal has an infectious enthusiasm that is so innocent and childlike he draws otherwise upstanding people into poorly considered criminal schemes. He’s a terrible criminal and realistically has no hope of fulfilling his dreams, but his wide-eyed charisma makes it hard for people to say no, or to be honest with him about his ridiculous plans. Dignan doesn’t hate himself, but if he ever faces the reality of his decisions, he might.

Conflict is necessary; without it, there cannot be a story. But most characters lack that subconscious self-loathing that dominates my list of favorites. (I’m not sure what that says about me.) Generally the more divided a character is, the more rich their internal struggle. It’s easy to say that The Dude from The Big Lebowski is self destructive since he’s so generally sloppy, but he is just too easygoing to hate himself, and his character isn’t as rich or compelling as Dignan in the same measure that Lebowski is less tragic.

Think about Breaking Bad’s Walter White, True Detective’s Rust Cohle, Bill Murray from Groundhog Day or Ghostbusters or Scrooged or Lost In Translation, Eddy from Hurlyburly, Gene Hackman’s Harry Caul from The Conversation or “Popeye” Doyle from The French Connection, Jake LaMotta from Raging Bull, Humbert Humbert from Lolita, Romeo, Hamlet, Dracula.

These characters are some of my favorites. Their internal tensions drive the respective plots forward with an sharp edge. The problems generated by these inner conflicts give me a thrill because I sense that I’m not just watching an external narrative advance step by step; I’m seeing an existential crisis in action. I get the sense these characters sometimes wonder, “How can I be this way?”

Even when the plot doesn’t have to move forward, great inner conflicts lead to memorable characters. Sam Malone from Cheers is a recovering alcoholic, a washed up baseball player who, since he knows nothing else, buys a bar and works his days away with his ex-coach, nailing as many ladies as possible. Diane Chambers, a self-styled intellectual and scholar, takes a job as a barmaid and cannot resist Sam’s charm. To my mind, this is one of the best premises ever for a sitcom.

I resonate with these characters. I feel quickly and deeply invested. I want these characters to struggle with themselves and I usually want to see their better natures win in the end. We all have inner conflicts, and we generally see ourselves as the heroes of our own stories. A well-crafted character should gradually invite us to project our conflicts, to see ourselves in the character’s skin (to some extent) and reciprocally, to share in their emotions.

And the best characters aren’t necessarily revealed right away. Sometimes it can take multiple viewings or readings to tease apart the antipodal motivations, to really get inside a character’s head and start to understand those primal urges that drive him or her. A great character should be rich enough with content that they can surprise us, but once we get inside their heads, it should all make perfect sense.

My favorite character ever might be the darkest of all: Laura Palmer. Her death at the beginning of Twin Peaks marks the beginning of our discovery. In 30 episodes we never properly meet her, but we learn so much of her inner conflicts we can infer depths to her that most characters cannot touch. And when we finally meet her in the movie Twin Peaks: Fire Walk With Me, we get a touching and disturbing portrait of struggle between light and darkness. Laura is a heroine who still resonates with culture today, echoing all over the media landscape in shows like The Killing.

Truly great characters live forever.

4 thoughts on “My Favorite Characters Hate Themselves

  1. Through reading this article, I became very interested in the perspective you used to analyze your favourite characters. It, in turn, forced me to look at my favourite characters from my favourite stories, films, etc. I realized that I shared this viewpoint that you do. All of the characters I could think of had some sort of inner struggle throughout their story besides the obvious outer struggles they were enduring. For instance, one of my favourite film characters is Jules Winnfield (played by Samuel L. Jackson) in Pulp Fiction. Jules dealt with an inner conflict throughout the whole film; whether he agreed with what he was doing pertaining to his job and whether he was going to stop or not. This by no means was the main conflict of the film, but it’s what kept me invested in Jules’s timeline throughout the movie. And arguably, it could be what makes him one of my favourite characters. Excellent insight!

    • Thanks a lot. I think the days of wholesome protagonists are over. Conflict is central to storytelling, and conflicted characters offer a wider dramatic palette, period. I’m sure this one of the reasons the Dark Knight movies outperformed Man of Steel; does anyone doubt that Superman will always try to do the right thing?

      This is especially true in television today. Most of the premium shows I’ve seen seem to make it a point to kill off characters who serve as a show’s “moral compass”. Serial shows need characters who can evolve and surprise audiences. A show can’t put up big numbers week after week if the audience doesn’t feel like they have to tune in to find out what happens. It’s just not compelling if we can predict characters will play it safe.

  2. I completely agree with this statement. Without even knowing it, I have grown to love the characters that practice self-loathing. That three dimensional aspect definitely does play a big part of why people relate and admire characters that are not particularly fond of themselves. Thinking back to the characters that I appreciated the most, its surprised me how much they dealt with hating themselves. I remember watching Gilmore Girls and seeing how Loreli was so confident and witty but she had many moments when she would just wallow in her own self pity and kick herself for all the mistakes she’s made. What made me, and probably a lot of fans of the character, enjoy most about her was that she didn’t put on an act and pretend like everything was perfect. When she was feeling bad about herself she would let herself feel it. A more recent example of a self hating character, and another one of my personal favourites, is the star of the show Dexter. Dexter Morgan disguises himself as a police forensics expert and pretends to help find murders when really he’s feeding his own habits of being a serial killer. This is another great example of a three dimensional character. If Dexter was just a normal police office we wouldn’t find him so interesting. The fact that he’s tortured and is basically forced to kill because of his messed up childhood and his troubled past is interesting to us and draws us in. I think the main idea is that we love imperfect characters. It seems that the more messed up and damaged the character is, the more we love them.

    • I agree, it does seem that way up to a point. Despite many recommendations, I’ve still never seen Dexter because the idea of a protagonist who’s a psychotic murderer doesn’t appeal to me. I definitely want a character with strong internal conflicts, but I also need to empathize with protagonists. If I can’t understand or get a feel for a character’s inner struggle, I’m left out in the cold, watching events transpire without any real emotional investment. I haven’t written Dexter off; who knows, the show might surprise me if they can show me a serial killer with a nuanced and intriguing inner life. As a rule though, the stronger the internal conflict, the more dramatic latitude a character has.

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